New Year's Resolution
Embrace My Inner Weird
What Is Different or Weird?
But before we can define what I mean by different, we must think about the typical every day stuff that you perceive about people. Such as the things that you can see like the color of someone’s hair, their gender, their skin color, the clothes they are wearing or even the way they smell.
I would like to take this time to dive a little bit in to perception. Have you ever heard the saying: perception is reality? As much as I know that this is a human nature thing, I completely disagree with this. After being the lead investigator in some rather complicated employee relations cases, I can attest that a lot of what I call “individual perceived truths” are not based on facts, but again on the perceived reality. A lot of times, I have had to break down the perception and build the actual events with facts. It’s interesting to see even minutes after an incident how each witness has completely different ideas of what happens. This my friends is what gets us all in to trouble. Please, take the time to get to know someone before you judge them based on what you see or perceive is reality.
For example, about me you would see a female, with brown eyes, and brown skin wearing a hat with a dress in the middle of World Market looking for snacks from Korea. What you don’t see is a 10 year Army veteran who has been to combat. Trust me that changes you forever.
Considering my age, even my own husband finds it odd that I prefer to wear dresses and hats. I must confess I hate pants. They are so constricting and they remind me of some of the bad things about the military like how I had no choice on what I wore every day. Funny how the little things mean so much. This is probably why I value everything that I have and everything that others have given me. If you were to break down every promotion, I can name at least one person who helped me get there.
It’s so silly, but what’s even sillier are the judgmental eyes looking at me like some rare Polish Blue Rooster. Of course, I had a lot of people stop and tell me how much they love my hat guess what the majority are quite a bit older than me. I guess my hat makes me odd, but it’s easier to find those like me with it.
According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary “Weird derives from the Old English noun wyrd, essentially meaning “fate.” By the 8th century, the plural wyrdehad begun to appear in texts as a gloss for Parcae, the Latin name for the Fates—three goddesses who spun, measured, and cut the thread of life. In the 15th and 16th centuries, Scots authors employed werd or weird in the phrase “weird sisters” to refer to the Fates. William Shakespeare adopted this usage in Macbeth, in which the “weird sisters” are depicted as three witches. Subsequent adjectival use of weirdgrew out of a reinterpretation of the weird used by Shakespeare.”
I would like define different for me as being what some people refer to as weird. I have been called weird before, but unlike others I would like to embrace this word as a way to describe unique individuals who have come to embrace who they truly are.
When you are different, you stand out from the crowd. What is really bad about being different is not knowing if being different is a blessing or a curse. It’s hard being weird. It’s so much easier to be a part of the group. I am telling you that if you are not happy with who you are; you will have a hard time knowing who you truly are. Embrace your inner beauty and release your true self to the world without fear, my friend. If you need to chat, find me on Twitter @ceciliaclark923 so we can chat. I am here to support you.
It is very interesting to see how being different affects your work life. People treat you differently if you have something that makes you stand out. Sometimes it is silly like the brand of clothes you wear. But don’t be discouraged sometimes this oddness about you will attract others who will value you for who you truly are and not by what other people see on the outside. You are so much bigger and better than that.
I know that sometimes people treat me differently, but to me being different is a good thing. It seems that a lot of top achievers are a bit different. Why? Because they are comfortable in their own skin whatever color or shade that may be. They are proud and loud with what makes them unique. How can you not want to be a part of our tribe? Join the #HRTribe by following us on twitter!
Believe it or not! I love my job in HR. Why? Because I am that one stop where no one feels ashamed or intimidated. They all know I will not judge them. Why? Because I make people comfortable and I always start my conversation with: “so you look like you need a bottle of water. Let’s drink it together and sit on my couch to chat.”
They think how bad can my issue be when Charlie is so odd. Plus, she has traveled the world. Yes, that is true my friends I have lived, traveled, and experienced more than most people my age. I don’t see the world through the same eyes as other people. Just like you! It’s okay thinking differently. Stop hiding! Speak up! Wear that one thing you love and call me! We can have lunch together.
To Embrace My Inner Weird I will...
Be More Artistic
As a Sr. HR Generalist, we are constantly having to re-invent the wheel with the mountain of problems we have to solve. To keep my creative juices flowing, I will paint more and play the piano more.
Connect in New Ways
Being in HR is all about wanting to be around others. I promise to go out of my way to find new ways to connect. I am even considering signing up for Meet Ups to meet different people. Maybe I can find other #HR artists so we can paint together.
Be Thankful To my mentors & TO SHRM
You can’t forget that you didn’t make it to where you are today alone. I can say that I have had some amazing mentors like CSM Fortune. He explained that the best way to show that someone is being strategic is by going to their boss with solutions to the problems they find. That is a characteristic of someone with strategic thinking. To be honest, he was the best CSM I have ever worked for.
I hope to find him and thank him for teaching me how to act and talk like a professional.
fall in love with #HR & Become an Active SHRM Member
Hit The Books and Learn
The only way to become better at your job is to expand your knowledge. As we all know, you cannot wait around for your company to pay for training or for mentors to knock down your door. You must read books and be open to learning from weird people.
Be more intuitive. When you see someone struggling, help them. Don't ignore their suffering. Even if they are different, reach out and offer your assistance. They will be forever thankful. That is called good Karma.
To get to this goal: Veterans in Food Initiative Veterans in Food Initiative
Give to the SHRM Foundation
The SHRM Foundation changed my life. Great people in the foundation saw something different about me so I want to give back to an organization that works hard to grow our profession. You can give your time and become a volunteer or give donations so they can invest in the future of HR. Invest your time in an organization that cares about you.
Be Amazingly Responsive
Many times people reach out for help specially in HR. Your employees, your managers, and your peers will reach out to you for assistance. Be open and mindful that sometimes people just need someone to talk to. Give them the time to talk and just listen.
Be A Community builder
Open up your network to others specially to newbies. It is very rewarding to connect people. Use your HR skills to introduce people who may have similar interests. Introduce them to the #HRTribe on Twitter.
Don't Judge Based on what you See
It is human nature to judge people before they get to know them. For example when people see me, they see a veteran who successfully transitioned, what they don't see is how hard I worked. They may also not see what makes me unique and valuable. I have been judged based on my skin color, my gender, and my veteran status. That hurts deeply.
About the Author
My name is Cecilia Alexandra Clark. I prefer C.A. Clark or Charlie Clark. Most people know me as Cici, but this year I decided it was time that I created a pen name for my blogs.
I am a Sr. HR Generalist for a frozen food manufacturing company. At this company, we have over 10,000 employees. As a generalist, I support the operations of two plants with over 600 employees and growing. I am also a U.S. Army veteran who served over 10 years in active duty. I spent eight of my ten years overseas (Iraq, South Korea, Alaska and Hawaii).
I am a self-starter with a mind of my own. I am a free spirit who loves to encourage others to see past what is in front of them so they can live life to the fullest always!